Recently I came to a realization that I'd been single six months now, with pretty much nothing going on in the romance department. Honestly, I've mostly been avoiding any type of romantic entanglements. There was a nice lady I'd asked out in August, and even went on a nice date, but it was apparent (to me at least) that she wasnt all that interested in me romantically.
I kind of shrugged it off, thinking maybe I wasn't ready to date again. But now I feel I've had a good buffer between my last relationship, along with a pretty damn good summer of fun with my friends. However, I'm not a fan of going to the bars any more to go "trolling" for whatever single women are hanging out in the local bars. No offense to them, but that scene just doesn't do it for me.
Of course, I'm kind of the odd man out amongst my friends. I'm in my early thirties and most of my friends are married with children, so even going to a bar, I have no wingmen... on my own. And going to a bar on my own is another weird thing, or at least it feels weird.
A friend suggested I try an online site to meet women. I tried this once before, about a week before I became involved with my last girlfriend. So I never even had much of a chance to really use that kind of dating venue. I never gave the online thing much of a thought, since I figured living up in such a rural area, it would be hard to meet women.
But I'm expanding my horizons. What have I got to lose? I recently signed up for one of the big online dating sites. Nothing really to speak of yet, but we'll see how it goes. In the meantime, my free time tends to fill up quickly with stuff to do with my friends. Whether I meet a good lady online or out and about in the world, the important thing is that I feel ready to "get back out there".
An old friend once told me his philosophy on relationships: "We are all like rays of light shining out across the universe. Sometimes we find other rays of light that we travel with for a time, some for all time, others for only a short time. But we are not the only bright spots in the universe, and there is always another ray of light out there".
I'm ready for that next ray of light...
